Private Thoughts.

I'm Kat! Nerd fighter, cosplayer, Bene Gesserit, Pansexual, body positive, sex postive, and a mom. My blog can be NSFW at times so beware. Other than that, come say hi!


So my wifey sent me a link to a meme generator and things happened. Because, you know, I always speak on cosplay and positivity and loving yourself, but those ramblings get long, so here’s some quick memes to keep you going in cosplay and, well, anything you need them for  :) Share them, save them, print them out and put them by your fabric as a reminder that you’re awesome and should be having fun instead of stressing about someone’s opinion  <3

The Wonder Woman meme is pretty much my feelings on cosplay.  Have fun, be whatever you want, love yourself, the end  :)  

The Tiana meme is pretty much my feelings on fat bashing and this idea that, somehow, a fat person’s existence glorifies obesity.  This is a ridiculous notion.  You can’t say that a fat person is lazy and useless and needs to go out and do something, then when that person does go out and does something you shoot them down.  Me being in this world is about me enjoying my life, period.  My weight is simply that: my weight, but there’s more to me then that, and honestly, if you choose (yes, choose, because your opinions are a choice) to be bothered my a woman who has some rolls and flabby arms then I feel sorry for you, because there is so much more to this life than one fat lady in a costume.





#let’s play guess the endgame one more time 

Okay you know what I was just gonna reblog this and say nothing but you know what, I’m pissed off and you wanna know why?

Ted is a Nice Guy. I don’t mean a nice man, no. I mean the motherfucking “Nice Guy” who moans and complains about how women just won’t flock to him and be exactly who he expects of them. He knew from the beginning Robin wanted to focus on her career before marriage. He knew from the beginning she didn’t want kids. She rejected him time after time before they dated the first time. She rejected him time after time after that, for nine goddamn fucking years. His refusal to stop pursuing her, and accept she did not fucking love him, destroyed his relationship with Victoria TWICE. He is the whiny high school teenager bitching because the popular girl he obsesses over just isn’t into him. He is the goddamn Nice Guy, the kind whose every action, every so-called kind deed is done purely out of trying to get Robin to date him.

Robin motherfucking Scherbatsky was an independent woman who not only relied on herself, but expected the men she wanted to be with to be independent and rely on himself, as well. She was career-minded and strong and independent and self-reliant. Those were the traits that doomed her and Ted.

In this gifset we see that Ted did not respect Robin for who she was. He didn’t want her to be self-reliant—he wanted her to rely on him. He’s like so many men out there, so many Nice Guys. Baby, let me take care of you while you put me before everything else, You’re too independent, Robin. I need you to need me, I need you to rely on me. The reason they didn’t work out was because they both wanted and needed different things in relationships, and that’s okay—what isn’t okay is that instead of accepting that, Ted blames her. Tells her that SHE is the reason why they broke up, and something about her is WRONG. He insults her, tells her that her fundamental personality is wrong, and that she is why their relationship failed; that they they just aren’t compatible, no; because she is broken.

She is so upset at this she goes to another ex. He’s the Jerk, you know; the guy who all the Nice Guys in the world call The Asshole. And you know what? You know what this Asshole does? He comforts her, he compliments her. He tells her that those traits, teh traits she’s been belittled and taunted over, the traits that make her broken, the reason why She Can’t Find A Man, are what make her wonderful. Barney loved her for her insecurities, and he supported her independence. He supported her self-reliance. In one scene, this Asshole prove to be far more accepting and mature than the so-called Nice Guy.

So who do she end up with?


how i met your mother ending is bullshit

The show ended with the wedding and Ted and Tracy meeting.  And that’s all that happened.

(Source: neuralmente, via rubenesque-as-fuck)

Are you sure that’s a real spell? Well, it’s not very good is it? I’ve tried a few simple spells myself and they’ve all worked for me.

(Source:, via venus-dope)


So Boyfriend and I were discussing cosplay today and how I wanted to cosplay someone from the Marvel universe. I have a whole list of lovely kick ass Marvel ladies that I want to do but none of them are exactly, good.

I would really really love to do Hela. I love her head dress. AND! I want to do a Lady Loki. And of course, I want to do a classic Mystique. I love my villain ladies!

Buuuutttttt……. Boyfriend suggested someone even better.


Uh, yes. Please. I picked out to comic book panels that I love and I will eventually decide which of the two outfits I wanna do. (Don’t let me lie. I will probably do both!)

I wouldn’t do classic Scarlet Witch however because my hips are too big for that body suit and I’m super self conscious about them. I’m super excited about making her outfit actually. Boyfriend says he wants to go as Magneto but if people were to see us being affectionate that it would be weird.


Kiddo woke up for no reason around 1 AM and he didn’t fall back asleep until sometime around 4 AM. SO much for sleeping in!

Poor kiddo is teething so things are just super crappy in his world right now. He has two lowers but he is cutting his upper, two at the same time! And the poor buggers are taking their dear sweet time. I might end up giving him some teething tablets or something for the pain.

Every time I hear him movie, I freeze. I really don’t want him to wake up yet. It hasn’t even been an hour. I want sleep too.